‘If something, ANYTHING doesn’t feel right, we must step back, breathe, feel and process. Safe, healthy, respectful people will allow us to do just that, someone who is unsafe absolutely won’t.’ – Natalie Catherine
Check out Natalie’s post over on Instagram. It’s so worth a read! https://www.instagram.com/p/B1F_VMQgmQn/
One of the things that surprised me about myself, in the relationship I got into, was how I didn’t walk away when the first red flag appeared back in February. 🚩
Amongst the red flags in the relationship, there was a feeling of ANXIETY that kept coming in waves through my body, even from the very start.
I hadn’t experienced anxiety in my life! Maybe the odd moment here and there, but it was NOT a feeling I was familiar with.
But I dismissed it..
…It was just excitement
…It was just love forming
…It was because of the distance
…It was because of this, and that
But in the whirlwind excitement of it all, the falling in love part of it all, the hopes and promises of it all, I pushed down that CLEAR warning sign my body was giving me.
As Natalie says in her post, because empaths can see the GOOD in people this often is to the detriment of seeing the TRUTH, and recognising the STOP signs.
Even to this day, I can see the good, the light and the love I shared with my ex, even though it became one of the most traumatic experiences I’ve been through. Perhaps that’s still me seeing the GOOD, but the TRUTH is becoming a lot clearer now too.
It’s been a struggle to break free from the relationship. There’s a few reasons for that, one of them being the trauma bond that was created by the highs and lows. It took 8 attempts at breaking up. That takes up so much time and energy as well as strength and emotions. If you are wondering ‘Why won’t he let me go‘, it’s a sign to dive deeper into the dynamics of the relationship.
Do not ignore the RED FLAGS in whatever form they take; whether it’s in your heart, you feel as anxiety, or it’s a general sense of unease even though you can’t put your finger on it.
They are relationship red flags and deal breakers. Listen, act and remove yourself from the situation.
If you want my help in breaking free so that you can reclaim and create your life of FREEDOM then reach out and let’s talk about how I can help you today. x