No Contact Rule After Breakup

Are you wondering if you should employ the no contact rule after a breakup?

Is no contact right for you?

I’m going to answer your questions and share why no contact is one of the most POWERFUL things you can do after a breakup.

In today’s video we are going to look at…

What the no contact rule is
The benefits of going no contact
How long to go no contact for
If you should tell your ex that you are doing no contact
What to do after 30 days of no contact
Whether your ex is thinking about you during no contact
If no contact works with a covert narcissist
And if the no contact rule works!

This is about you moving on, recovering from your heart break and giving yourself a chance to heal.

BENEFITS of no contact

It gives you space to breathe
It will cut the energetic ties to a greater degree
You are taking control and setting boundaries
Use the no contact rule to move on – and up – with your life

Should you tell your ex you are doing no contact?

It depends. He will get the message either way when he doesn’t hear from you!

Depending on the type of r/ship you had, you might feel like it, but you don’t owe anyone an explanation. Just implement it.

IF you do tell your ex are going no contact, make sure that you drum home that today is the LAST day  contact you have (unless you have kids etc, then that will have to be managed and in that case strong boundaries and rules around communication must be put in place – times/how (phone/text/email). After that you – you draw the line. That’s it. It’s hard but it’s necessary.

My ex is a covert narcissist which explained why it was so hard to break free.

He kept coming back and ‘hoovering’ me up. Also because he had no boundaries, when I said it was over, he would be in touch within hours, or days. It took me EIGHT attempts to leave over 4 months. Each time it got WORSE AND WORSE. By the time I left I was traumatised and trauma bonded to the man.

I should also add that this was a long distant relationship – he lives in Manhattan – which would make you think that going no contact would be easier, but social media…. However, if you are in a long distance relationship then just know that No Contact can work perfectly well for you too.

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What to do after the 30 day no contact rule?

If you’ve been following the 30 days no contact rule – You keep going! Don’t stop now.

If you have been doing no contact for 30 days, it’s time to focus on the next 30.

Set your next goal and take it one day at a time.

In my next video I’m going to be sharing how to handle the social media situation and your best plan of action so make sure you subscribe to my youtube channel so you don’t miss it.

Is he thinking about me during no contact?

Do you know what? It doesn’t matter.

This is about you moving on, recovering from your heart break and giving yourself a chance to heal.

Your ex’s thoughts about no contact are just that – HIS thoughts. Not yours.

You have enough to do in giving yourself a chance of full recovery – focus on that. This is all about you. Will he forget you? No, of course not. Just like you won’t forget about him. But life goes on and you have a brand new future to look towards.

Does the no contact rule work? Yes. If you work it, honour it, use it for what it’s designed for and not as a way to manipulate a situation or your ex. No contact is a POWERful way to get over a break up. Use it to your advantage, for your healing and recovery.

Is it easy? No. But healing a trauma isn’t easy. but you do it step by step. I believe in you.

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