Let’s talk about Other People.
Like ‘em or loathe ‘em, you can’t avoid people! But you CAN avoid those that aren’t good for you and who drag you down. I’m going to tell you how I deal with the people who don’t support me or provide a negative element to my life and work and what you can what you can do about them too.
Remember, life is SO (so, so, SO, SO!) much better when you surround yourself with people who get you, who like you, understand you, Respect you, admire you, Love you, and who want what you’ve got to offer.
You’ve GOT TO get rid of those ones that drag you down.
I have, and I continue to do so. Years ago I would have put up with people who contributed negatively to my life and business. Be it the client that wasn’t a great fit because, business right? Or the friend that would subtly put me down. Or the family members who I allowed to behave in disrespectful ways. I would make exceptions. I would compromise. I would make allowances.
When someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them (I think Oprah said that!), but it’s true. Now my intuition lets me know loud and clear who won’t be a good fit for me. I don’t not tolerate those people for 1 minute now. I don’t make a song and dance about it, or create drama, or create a ‘back and forth’, I simply ignore (or unfollow/block if online) and move on and fill my mind and my actions with positivity and positive people.
You will never ever please everyone, so don’t even try.
Besides, people pleasers simply don’t command as much respect.
It’s ok if not everyone gets you. It’s fine to not be liked!
In fact, when other people don’t like you, that takes up their time, thoughts and energy. Let them get on with doing that!
Critics? Pah! To hell with them!
Sometimes, we worry about what people will think about us if we do what we want or say what we want.
To hell with them too!
This is YOUR life remember?
Are you going to allow other people, people whose opinions and thoughts don’t support you and quite frankly have NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU, ROB you of what you want in life and in your business?
Anyone who belittles you and makes you feel smaller – you’ve got to understand that they aren’t happy people and they’ve got their own work to do.
Worry about what other people think….?
You are wasting your time and energy.
You are allowing those thoughts to hold you back.
It’s none of your business what other people think of you.
Just get on with doing your job of being you and living YOUR LIFE!
You can sit and think about things, or you can put your attention to the future and positive things and create a life you want.
It DOESN’T MATTER.
In fact, take joy in repelling people. They are NOT your people.
Who you are left with are the people who get you, who like you, who understand you, who respect you, who admire you, who love you, and who want what you’ve got to offer.
THEY are the people that matter. Put your time, energy and love into those people whether they be friends, family or clients.
ABOUT Karen Strunks is a speaker and author and helps daring, rebellious, non-conforming women create a No Compromise life and business doing exactly what they love.
