Saying no is often labelled as selfish in Christian spaces, especially for women who desire to live faithfully and serve others. But what if saying no is not rebellion or self-protection gone wrong — what if it is an act of obedience to God? In this post, we’ll explore biblical boundaries, why people-pleasing quietly undermines your God-given calling, and how learning to say no without guilt can realign you with who God has created you to be and the work He has entrusted to you….
My word for 2026 is going to be no…
NO to anything or anyone that takes me away from my purpose, my connection to God, and the people I’m here to help, even if it’s just for a minute.
If it means people won’t understand, so be it.
If it means I lose friends, so be it. I’m keeping my circle small.
I can see where I have been over-accessible to a world and people that constantly pulls at others.
Being in an intense season of creativity and renewal with God has made it very clear where my boundaries have been too loose.
So! No more energy leaking to unreliable people, or having my time with my purpose work eroded by others wants and needs from me.
You MUST value your time, your attention, your energy, your emotions, your focus…
If you don’t value those things, you won’t be able to set a boundary around them and people will expect access. Don’t be surprised when people waste your time, they pull on your emotions, they distract you from your work, and zap your energy.
You have been granted a valuable and limited amount of time here on earth, but you aren’t here to carry other people’s burdens. Unless you are a martyr I guess. 🤷♀️
If you are like me you don’t take other people’s precious recourses, you don’t take something unless it’s freely given to you, you don’t coerce people emotionally to fulfil a gap.
I won’t accept that being done to me, and you shouldn’t allow it to be done to you either.
Your YES has a cost.
I’m not saying don’t say yes at all. There will be times when you are called to help, support, be in agreement with someone. But to EVERY request and tug? No. You have a right, and even a DUTY, to set boundaries around yourself, your work, your purpose and your LIFE.
So what happens when you say YES when you really want to say NO?
You will end up feeling resentful. Stressed. Pressured. Trapped…
…And then you find you’ll find yourself in boring situations (maybe with boring people!).
You might end up in environments that drain you or that are intellectually empty.
Or in a dynamic that just drains your energy.
Saying NO might take courage too!
People don’t like hearing the word no. I’ve been approached so charmingly by people with requests only for the charade to be dropped like butter off a hot knife when I don’t accommodate their request.
But here’s the thing…
To protect your time, energy, and life, you must become comfortable with disappointing people.
You are not responsible for how others handle their feelings and thoughts about things.
Saying no is an act of self-respect (call it self-care if you wish).
You aren’t here to be convenient to other people or always available and accessible.
But you ARE here to honour your calling, live in alignment with who God says you are, who you are called to be, and to be clear to yourself and with others.
Here’s a question I’ll leave you to ponder with if you ever feel like saying YES when you know you should say NO…
Am I obeying God or am I managing people’s reactions?
Believe more is possible,
Karen ❤️ x
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